I have a problem that I'm slowly getting better at dealing with. It's taking a compliment. Now, the compliment is not the problem; it's how I respond.
Friend to me: "I love your nails! They look great!"
Me: "Thanks! I only get them done once or twice a year. I went because I had a groupon for x amount of money and I really wanted to try the no chip manicure."
Friend: "That dress is so cute!"
Me: "Oh thanks! It was really cheap. It's from Target."
Friends: "I love your hair. Did you just get a new color?"
Me: "Yes. My sister does it and charges me less. No way could I get it done for full price."
Yesterday this happened at my sons karate class. It's the first time one of the other moms talked to me and I said something along these lines. Ids. (short for idiot).
Friend: "Did you make that bag? It's really cute."
Me: "Oh this old thing? There are so many mistakes. See? I screwed up the strap." Etc. Etc.
What the heck is wrong with me? Why can't I just say thanks? Why do I feel like I have to justify everything with a clause about how "inexpensive" it was?
A. Is it that I don't want people to think that I spend a lot of money?
B. That I want them to think that I'm frugal and get good deals? (who cares?)
C. That I just really stink at taking a compliment?
I'm not really sure. A friend of mine and I laugh all of the time because it's sort of an inside joke between us and we catch ourselves doing it all of the time. Last week I complimented her on a running shirt she was wearing she said, "Thanks. I got it on the clearance rack at Target." Then I pointed at her and we laughed for a while.
We joke that next time someone compliments us we'll lose our cool- "This dress? It was cheap! Like dirt cheap. I don't even like it. Here take it! AHHHHHH!" Then we'll run off naked into our abyss of inability to take a compliment and rock on the floor in a ball in some bathroom stall.
So I consulted with Miss Manners on the topic. Did a little google search. She said that when you receive a compliment, just say: THANK YOU.
Wow. Isn't that earth shattering? I'm not sure that my mouth can utter only a two word answer. I think too much. But, I'll practice and let you know how that goes.