These days, I'm asked that pretty infrequently.
But I've noticed that even in my social circles, when I say that I'm a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM), I'm prompted by others to also share that I have my own business. That I do more than "JUST" stay at home and raise kids. It's kind of funny.
I've been a SAHM for 6.5 years.
|EJ as a 2 month old|
The first few months at home were absolutely the hardest. Getting used to a new life, a new baby and being a mom was a huge adjustment for me. I felt like I needed to be doing more. Not that I would be more "valuable" as a person, but because I sort of had the thought, "this is IT?". I was so used to going to work from 730-330 then running to school from 415-915 at night.
I was busy and I liked it that way. Now, I was "stuck" inside because my new baby needed to nurse, sleep and get a diaper changed- A LOT. And with every diaper change was a clothing change because my boy always soiled his clothes.
I was a little preoccupied with what else I could do while my baby was a baby. God quickly showed me during this time in my life that my ministry was to my family.
"Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it. Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman keeps awake in vain."Psalm 127:1
How did I feel about this revelation? Relieved! I didn't have to search and wonder what else I could be doing. I could focus my energy on being the best wife and mom that I could be.
After a few months, when this child was smiley and portable, life became more interesting and when I found out after 8 months of getting used to life as a mom that I was going to have ANOTHER baby, I freaked. When EJ was 17 months old, I gave birth to my Miss and life was cuh-razy (er). Two in diapers, a boy who could barely make it down the stairs alone and a newborn girl to take care of.
I'm sure that God was chuckling some days. He does have a sense of humor, after all.
|I love this picture... ;)|
She went on and on about how I didn't look old enough to be a mom (oh go on!). I was flattered. Then she said how she'd love to be a SAHM because it would be so much easier (even though she doesn't currently have children, but that's beside the point). She was trying to be nice? The other sales girl rolled her eyes and said how BORING it would be. She was trying to be-uh, mean? If I weren't so mature (chuckle chuckle), I probably would have gone into a SAHM speech... Maybe I would've brought up some of these points? Maybe not.
Financially-super and I mean super tight. I shop at 3 grocery stores a week. We don't have cable (nor do I think we would if we had the $), we only eat out on special occasions, I shop around for everything to find the best deal.
Emotionally and Spiritually-Hard. Essential to find other moms that you can do life with. Otherwise, you will feel isolated. I am so thankful for my church that offered and continue to offer a Wednesday morning study where many moms gather for study and fellowship while the kids are cared for in the nursery. Or there are MOPS groups around the country. If you aren't a part of a church during this part of your life, I HIGHLY recommend that you check one out.
Spending daily time in prayer became more essential to me these past years as well. There's no way I could handle motherhood without laying my burdens at God's feet on a frequent basis.
As far as boring, being a mom is anything but. My kids are now 6, 5 and almost 3. Although it's true that I often feel like a bus-driver, watching them grow and learn is one of the most exciting things, ever.
|My three babies in 2008|
To the stay at home moms whose husbands are out of town most of the week-I don't know how you do it. Kids all day, kids all night. Alone. Amazing. Only God could sustain that!
To the working mamas. I don't know how you do it. Working all day, then coming home and doing everything in the evening or weekend that takes me all week to do. God bless you.
"Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it."