Saturday, February 26, 2011

Wise In Your Own Sight- or the Mom-Judge-Monster

You've done it.  I'm sure you have.  Because I have, the thought that you have makes me feel better.  Selfish I know.
You see a child misbehave and watch how a mom responds and think, "what that child needs is a good ___________." (Fill in the blank).
Perhaps you overhear someone talking about how their baby still gets up for a feeding at night and the baby is 6 months old!  You are dying to jump in with your advice on how to get that baby to sleep through the night because a baby should NOT be getting up at 6 months...
Or maybe you say, "I would never let my kid do _______." "I would NEVER say that to my kid."

Whether you're a parent or not, the mom-judge-monster can rear it's ugly head.
A couple of years ago.  Trying to take a Christmas pic.  E-gads.

My first born was a super easy baby.  He slept through the night at 2 months, fed regularly, ate most of the food I put in front of him.  I assumed, because he was my first, that all baby's were like that.  When I heard other moms complaining, or sharing about how their kids had a hard time with something, my mind immediately thought, "why don't you just do what I did?  It worked for me!" 

My eldest as a baby.  Eating whatever green stuff is all over his mouth. 
Some of my friends have shared how they would let the mom-judge-monster into their thought life, only to be faced with the SAME exact issues that they were judging in other moms.  You quickly realize that every situation is unique, every child is different and that, eek, gasp, choke, perhaps God is trying to do something in that family and your projections aren't welcome.
Check out this verse.  Romans 12:16...
6 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.

Are you wise in your own sight?  Be careful.

Romans 2:1-3
Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? 

True wisdom... James 3:17.  But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.

Replace those thoughts with mercy and love. 

Love, a recovering mom-judge-monster.


  1. 2 things. One: I love those pictures of your kids when they are so little. Precious. Two: You know the experiences I've had with this so I can totally relate. Hopefully others can too!! =)


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